Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel on "Where Should We Begin" and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? For an ad-free version of our podcast, plus bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more, visit our Office Hours section.
What this show covers
relationshipsmarriageboundariesparentingintimacyfamily dynamicscommunicationbetrayalself-worthtrustsexual desireasexualitycommunication stylesmarital conflictcouples therapy
What listeners will find here
When one partner is asexual and the other needs sex to feel close
This episode centers on a married couple facing a stark mismatch in desire after one partner realizes she is asexual. Esther Perel explores whether this has to mean divorce, or whether a different way of understanding intimacy could open another path.
A marriage session where boundaries, silence, and in-laws all collide
A couple’s clashing communication styles turn a therapy session explosive: she has no boundaries, he’s emotionally walled off, and the in-laws’ voices loom over everything. Esther Perel is pulled so deeply into the tension that she imagines needing extra chairs in the room.
When an AI romance enters a family, what do kids hold on to?
A mother seeks Esther Perel’s guidance after her ex-husband’s relationship with an AI companion begins affecting their children. The episode explores how to help kids stay grounded in reality without forcing them to take sides between parents.
Why healthier relationships may depend on learning to fight better
Conflict is the subject here, and the episode argues it’s not toxic or immoral but a vital, generative part of close relationships. Esther talks with Priya Parker about how fighting can become a productive force that brings people closer instead of something to fear.
A rupture with his mother exposes deeper betrayals inside a marriage
This episode follows a married couple seeking healing after a devastating break with his mother following the birth of their first child. As the session unfolds, Esther Perel explores betrayal, abandonment, shame, accountability, and the family patterns shaping their pain.
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